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So.. where do I start. Guess my travel stories alternate to life reflections. Sorry, been busy that I have no time for travel blogging. Another two years passed since my last post. Of course, lots of things did happen.

What was going on in 2018? Still happily working and dancing, plus becoming healthier by attending workout classes, joining running events, and guess what: I got my Zumba teaching license and had my first regular class in a studio :D. Never, ever, thought of this.

Then what happens in 2019? Hmm, it gets MUCH MORE interesting. First of all, I turn 25 --> 'WHAAATT, even I couldn't believe it. No, I don't feel old or something but.. wait, what, 25?!' People say 'welcome to quarter-life crisis'. What is that anyway, because I feel like I'm just starting my life.
Take me back to five years ago, my older cousins got married at the age of 25. I had this future wedding plan on my head and imagined myself as a bride. But as the year approached, 'Hello, prince charming, where are you?'.

Life doesn't stop, of course. As I said before, I'm just starting it. Thanks to my Zumba license, it brought me to great opportunities. I got something new that I'm looking forward to every single day. After finishing my main office work, I departed to the place I had to teach. I just couldn't imagine I could meet new people in every class, make new friends and connections, help people to be healthy, and earn extra cash as a bonus (ka-ching!).

Been enjoying my new routine, another 'I-couldn't-believe-it' opportunity came: I will be studying abroad and leaving in a few months. Studying abroad, especially in the UK, is one of my biggest dreams. And when it's finally in front of my eyes, it's exciting yet scary. I had to leave all the great things behind for a while: my happy daily routine, my family and friends, and all the convenience my city could offer. Having to let go of things you love is hard.

Here now I am in the UK. All of sudden, my life completely changed. I had to start all over again. For the first time, I have to live alone far away from my family. Becoming a student again is not easy. My responsibility doesn't stop after attending lectures. The long day still continues by having self-study, doing assignments, and preparing for exams. I have to manage my time wisely. Not only do I study the module, but I also learn how to organize my life more as well. As simple as cooking (I never cook before, but now I enjoy it so much and love to try making new dishes), doing the laundry, buying groceries, housing stuff, etc.
To help me survive and stay sane, I couldn't be more thankful of my pleasant surroundings: fellow Indonesian friends (instantly clicked since our first meeting, they are all like my family here), my new friends from different nationalities (pleasure to meet them, I feel at least five years younger when I'm around them :D), my housemates (I'm happy that we all get along well and thank you for making the house a nice place to live :)), nice and friendly random people, safe neighbourhood, and many other things I haven't listed. On top of that, I have the chance to experience things that I won't have if I weren't studying here. So, just live the moment.

Go for your dreams, as scary and challenging as they can be.

Life is a book, turn the page for another chapter.

Sometimes, you have to be out of your comfort zone. You don't know what life could bring. Be prepared and do not be afraid, it's just another phase you have to pass.

As quoted from Oprah Winfrey, "You can have it all, just not all at once."

Thank you, 2019 and welcome, 2020!
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These past two years have been the greatest years I've ever had. I had been wanting to write this last year, but I just got the chance now.

It is all started when I enter working life as an intern in January 2016. I began to see life in a wider perspective. At first, based on what most people said, working in a 8 to 5 office seems boring and flat. I thought I would never be able to make it to stay for a 3-month internship. Turns out, I requested to extend my contract. Office feels like my second home. I was in my last semester of college, having one class left to attend, and working on my final report. But I loved to be in the office more. I didn't expect to be in a pleasant working environment. I got to meet these amazing friends, attend many fun office events, eat lots of food (I was even appointed as 'snack manager', haha), and of course develop my professional skills. Every day is fun day and full of laughter.

In the middle of the year, I was finally graduated and got my bachelor degree. Yeay! Finally I was free and could focus on work. I was hoping I then got promoted to be permanent employee, but I happily continued to stay as an intern until the end of the year. Well, great thing about it is I didn't have to worry about attendance. I could only just tell my manager if I wasn't going to the office and still could go on holiday easily. Approaching year-end, I got mixed feelings. I hadn't known whether I would get employed or not and I would be very sad to leave the company and its people. A day before my last day, thinking that it would be the last time I meet most of my friends before they took leave, I decided to read a letter to them. I almost cried and felt so emotional knowing I have to leave all the good things behind.

Then suddenly all the sadness changed. Since my manager is on leave, I got called by CFO in her room. She told me I could start working as permanent employee by new year. What?! Did I just mishear? I was shocked, I couldn't think clearly. I was just saying goodbye and then I got this announcement? I didn't even realise I was dancing joyfully in front of her. I was extremely happy! Yes, baby, I landed my first job!

I couldn't believe all this magic just happened. I started the new year with a whole new spirit. More responsibilities and new opportunities to come. While happily working, through my encounter with people, whether they are people I know or strangers, my eyes and mind are more opened that I get to feel more grateful on small things I didn't realise I have it already.

Outside, people see me as a cheerful, loud, and always-energized young lady. But when I'm at home and locked up in my room, it's time for me to chill and reflect on what I have been through that day.

Sometimes, we, as employees have to work over time to catch deadlines, either it's working late than usual or coming to office on holiday. I don't have any problem with that since I'm still single and haven't had any dependents yet. But how about the others? Most of them are fathers and mothers, they have families. They sacrifice their precious time with their loved ones. And what if their house is far away from the office? Every morning and night most of them need to find transportation and spend quite long time to reach their desired destination.
Nowadays, it is easier to find transportation, thanks to online taxis and ojek (=motorcycles). Even though the distance between my house and office is not that far, the traffic could be very bad. I do sometimes take online ojek since it is more efficient. I could save so much time! I usually give tips to the drivers and learn how Rp5,000,- could mean so much. Every time I give the tips, I just smile and look away because I could immediately cry in front of them. I'm such a drama queen, I know. They genuinely say thank you and I could really feel their happiness. With their smile, I become happy too. I learn that you could be happy by giving.

Life is not easy. I do often cry unnecessarily, just because I'm too thankful, or seeing others' happiness and even their struggles. When I couldn't help them directly, I pray for them to make me calm. As I get older, I learn not to judge people on first impression. Every people has their own story.

People sometimes wonder how I could look happy all the time. It's simply because I choose to be happy. Of course there are times when I trapped in unpleasant situation where I want to scream loudly and smash everything around me, but I try to find positive sides behind every bad situations I encounter. For example, I was riding this online taxi where I was awaited for practice and it was raining. The driver took me to routes where the traffic was veeery bad and I couldn't do anything about it. Oh gosh, I feel like I wanted to punch the front seat. I couldn't yell at the driver because it won't solve anything, I would definitely be late after all. Instead, I tried to calm myself down and pray, think about good things. Thank God that the driver was still nice and took me safely to my destination. How come if he was a bad man and kidnapped me? *knock on woods*. We never know.

Some of my friends also ask, 'Hey Nada, are you still dancing now? How come you manage to still dance while you are already working now?' I am happy my working life still allows me to do what I love to do which is dancing. I didn't realise my hobby could be useful to others, give me extra earnings, and lead me to new opportunities. Besides in the place I work, I'm also asked to teach in other offices for their performance. I get the chance visit new places and meet new people.

Surely, I have dreams and bucket list from the past. But as I live, I am beyond grateful that God has given me valuable opportunities and experiences I've never thought of and expected to have. I may not have everything and still wishing on some things, but on the other side, sometimes I couldn't believe of what God has given me, they are too beautiful. God knows best and He gives what you need more than what you want.

With social media now, I couldn't deny sometimes I get jealous when I see those famous bloggers/influencers' posts. The grass is always greener on the other side, right? But hey, nobody's life is perfect. Every person has their own struggle. Do not compare your life with others', you will never feel enough. By being thankful on small things and what you have now, you will have more.

You are the one who decide to be happy or not.

Be flexible. Life doesn't always go as you wish.

Love the life you live.

Be grateful, appreciate on little things, and share what you have more with others.

I hope everybody have a great year and see you all in 2018.
Happy new year!
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Hi, single ladies! It's been nearly a year since I wrote 'About Being Single' post. How's your life been? Hope it gets more amazing :).

How's mine anyway? Nggak ada yang nanya sih, tapi gw mau curcol gimana dong, haha. Well, sama dengan post terdahulu, gw masih menikmati kehidupan gw yang penuh warna ini. I've been enjoying my life too much sampe merasa being single is my comfort zone. Oke, kadang masih suka mupeng nonton drama dan liat orang pacaran tapi ya udah aja gitu, nggak baper. Parahnya, mungkin terlalu awal bagi gw untuk mikirin ini, tapi udah mulai membayangkan nantinya gw bakal jadi wanita independen. Segala artikel tentang cewek yang hidup mandiri kayaknya relate sama gw karena udah terlanjur nyaman dalam kesendirian. I'm okay being alone tapi dari lubuk hati paling dalam tetep aja sih masih mengharapkan datangnya prince charming. Di akhir tahun kemaren, mumpung lagi iseng dibacain tarot, gw nanya love life tahun 2016. Penasaran dong siapa tau ada kemajuan. Namun katanya, gw masih nyaman sendiri dan pacaran bukan prioritas gw. Ada yang mendekat pun, gw abaikan. Yakk, semakin tak berharap dan berusaha enjoy aja.

Ehh, tak disangka dan diduga, tarotnya keliru total! Suddenly, someone came up and changed my world (anjaayy sedaapp). Kayaknya emang bener kata orang, cinta jangan dicari, ntar juga dateng sendiri. Gila, gw dari yang tadinya selo aja tiba-tiba bisa galau-in satu orang ini. Langsung deh puter lagu-lagu cinta (yang seneng ya, bukan yang galau). Kalo tadinya didenger cuma karena enak, kali ini karena emang menggambarkan suasana hati! Mulai deh berkhayal, senyum-senyum sendiri, deg-degan, gelisah, dan kawan-kawannya itu.

Selama ini mungkin ada cowok yang ganteng tapi cuma di mata, kali ini gantengnya udah nyampe ke hati, eaaa. Duh gawat.. susah deh kalo udah begini. Kalo dia suka balik, nggak usah ditanya. Kalo nggak, hmm rasa kecewa pastinya agak sulit dihindari. Tapi gw sadar aja, namanya perasaan orang kan nggak bisa dipaksain. Mungkin bakal ada orang lain lagi atau waktunya aja belum tepat.

Anyway, thanks to this guy, I start to believe in love again. Setelah sekian lama akhirnya ada orang yang bikin hati gw bergejolak lagi (ehem). We never know what will happen. Just wait and see while enjoying the moment. Siapa tau ada postingan lanjutan dengan kabar baik, hehe ;).




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Hmm, kalo ditanya gw pengen punya pacar apa ga, jawabannya 'Ya pengen, keleus.' I've only dated one guy and been single for 5 years. Bangga? Ga. Pity? Ga juga. Well, memang demikian kenyataannya. Kadang gw mikir enak ya jadi cowok, lebih punya kendali. Jadi cewek cuma bisa nunggu. Tapi kata emak, gw-nya juga yang kurang agresif. Ya.. udah dari sananya begitu mau gimana lagi. Trus, kenapa gw ga punya pacar lagi? Perpisahan orang tua gw ga bikin trauma kok. It's simply because I haven't met the right one. Nah, 'right one' versi gw yang kayak gimana nih. Let me share, cukup 2 hal aja.

Pertama, agama. Gw sebenernya ga masalah kalo orang lain nikah beda agama. Tapi gw sendiri ga mau, even cuma pacaran. Takut kebablasan trus sulit untuk diakhiri (cieileh). Gw cari pacar bukan buat pacaran doang sih, tapi pikirannya langsung ke depan buat nikah. Jauh bener yee.. tapi emang itu kan tujuan pacaran? Belajar dari pengalaman sepupu gw yang cewek juga. Ga cuma 1, tapi 2 orang. Udah pacaran lamaaaaa banget, ada yang nyampe 7 taun, eh.. bubar. Kan miris.
Gw cukup aktif di komunitas agama di kampus sama di gereja. Sumpah, ga muna nih ya, awalnya ikut ya sebagai ajang pencarian jodoh. Namun, berdasarkan pengalaman, cowok-cowok (yang menurut gw) ganteng itu ga suka ikut acara-acara beginian. Nasib.

Kedua, chemistry. It might be cliché, tapi ini penting menurut gw. Karena tanpa ini kurang greget dalam ngejalanin hubungan. Mesti seneng satu sama lain kan. Somehow, gw bisa merasakan chemistry itu sejak awal ketemu. Jadi udah bisa terdeteksi gitu deh dia bisa jadi cowok gw, apa cuma temen. Dan gw bukan tipe yang suka coba-coba, maksudnya kalo dari awal udah ga ada perasaan apa-apa ke dia, akan selamanya begitu. Misalnya dia pdkt-in gw (ga ge-er nih, kan bisa kebaca mau ngobrol biasa apa pdkt). Tak perlu bas bis bus, gw jawabnya langsung sinyal lampu merah. Bukannya sok mahal, tapi gw ga bisa maksain perasaan gw dan enak juga kan buat cowoknya jadi ga merasa di PHP-in. Tapi kadang gw suka merasa bersalah juga. Kata adek gw cowok, gw suka kelewat jahat balesnya, hehehe. Emang tricky nih. Mungkin kita udah punya sederet list kriteria cowok ideal, tapi ujung-ujungnya tergantung orangnya juga. Who knows kita justru ada chemistry sama orang yang bahkan ga mendekati kriteria itu.


Ga ada salahnya sih galau selagi single gini. Wajar, asal jangan lebay aja sampe desperate. Kadang gw biasa aja, kadang mupeng. Apalagi kalo udah nonton drama Korea, hadeeuh makin-makin. Unyu-nya itu loh keterlaluan! Kalo lagi gabut kadang suka bikin film sendiri gitu di otak, alias mengkhayal.

Sekarang kalo jomblo rasanya hina banget gitu ya. Tapi gw sendiri ga merasa terhina dengan kejombloan gw. Ngeliat hidup gw 5 taun terakhir ternyata cukup atau bisa gw bilang sangat berwarna. Jujur ga bisa dipungkiri, entah karena pacar pertama atau apa, abis putus rasanya galau to the max. Untunglah waktu itu banyak kegiatan yang bisa melampiaskan kegalauan gw. It helps, though. Walau butuh waktu yang ga sebentar, I've finally managed to move on. Jangan galau kelamaan, ga baik buat diri lo sendiri.

Saatnya get to know yourself better selagi single. Know what you want and don't want in life. Isi waktu dengan kegiatan-kegiatan positif; attend events, meet new people, pokoknya hal-hal yang menyenangkan dan memperkaya diri lo lah. Love yourself first. Gunakan kesempatan bebas ini semaksimal mungkin.
Selain itu, selain ngumpul sama temen-temen, luangin waktu buat keluarga. Because I live with my dad and bro, minimal quality timenya ke gereja lanjut pergi makan. Sama nyokap, I visit and go out with her regularly. Walau emak suka ngeledek malming kok gaulnya sama orang tua, she's actually happy her kids could spend their time with family.

Gw yang awalnya ikut komunitas agama dan gereja karena motivasi jodoh, lama-lama lupa sama motivasi itu karena emang enjoy sama lingkungannya. I meet new people and friends yang super seru. Kelebihannya kalo sama mereka selain haha hihi dan ngegaul bareng, bisa saling memperkaya iman (soleh banget kesannya). Karena emang udah cinta nari dari kecil, I'm still active in dancing and performing. Berhubung suka makan dan nyoba ini-itu, I attend berbagai bazaar yang sekarang lagi hits. Kalo topiknya cocok sama minat gw dan selagi bisa, gw dateng ke berbagai seminar dan talkshow, bahkan ga ragu dateng sendirian kalo ga ada temen. Justru di sana gw bisa temenan sama sesama yang dateng sendirian. And I also love traveling! New adventures really thrill me. Nah, banyak kan yang bisa dilakuin? Terus pesen gw, plis jangan terhina kalo jomblo. Galau-galauannya just for fun aja kayak status-status gw, apalagi bagian heboh kalo ketemu cowok ganteng, hahaha.

Bokap pernah baca artikel dan share ke gw. Kalo kita mau dicintai dan dibuat bahagia, kitanya harus mencintai dan bikin orang lain bahagia dulu. Then ask ourselves, apakah kita udah pantes buat dicintai? Gw percaya banget perihal sesuatu datang di saat yang tepat sama good things come to those who wait. Begitu lo sabar dan tiba saatnya di mana yang lo harapkan itu terjadi, rasanya indah banget, bahkan bisa lebih dari yang lo harapkan. Gw pun mengalami di hubungan gw satu-satunya itu. I learned a lot from the relationship. Tanpa disangka, tiba-tiba dia dateng gitu aja ke kehidupan gw. Gambaran keadaan gw waktu itu kira-kira kayak cewek-cewek di FTV gitu lah, yang suka senyum-senyum sendiri di kamar, deg-deg an nungguin SMS (iya, masih jaman SMS waktu itu, bahkan BBM belum eksis), dan hal-hal bodoh lainnya. But maybe for some reason the relationship has to end.
Sejak putus gw tentunya mencari lagi. Tapi apa daya belum dipertemukan dengan seseorang yang bisa bikin gw mabuk kepayang dan dunia serasa banyak bunga-bunga ala Syahrini. Kalo ada yang deketin, gw nya ga suka. Gw nya suka, dianya ga suka. Haah.. Tapi terus gw mikir mungkin ini emang rencana Tuhan belum mempertemukan gw dengan orang yang sama-sama cocok. He knows that I'm actually okay being alone dan gw percaya Tuhan udah nyiapin waktu buat dipertemukan dengan someone special *tetap optimis*.

Currently I'm enjoying my single life. Namun, pagar terbuka lebar buat pangeran-pangeran di luar sana untuk mengisi hati gw (azek). Kalo emang cocok, masa gw abaikan begitu saja?

Buat cewek-cewek yang belum pernah ngerasain yang namanya pacaran, sabar aja. You're stronger than you think!


Oh, and please jangan pacaran hanya karena ngerasa kelamaan single, untuk mengisi kekosongan, atau pelampiasan. Take your time. Kalo emang ga sreg ya jangan dipaksain. For me, I'd rather be alone than be with someone I don't want to be with.

Gw yakin ga semua orang punya pandangan yang sama kayak gw. I just want to share what's on my mind.


So, single ladies, don't be galau, enjoy your life, and good luck finding your prince charming!



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